Why It's Important To Face Your Fears

Stand Up Paddle Boarding was a lot of fun!

Are you afraid of trying new things?

I’ve blogged about facing your fears before on here, but do you know that being afraid of trying something new can prevent you from living life to the fullest? It’s true!

I have a bucket list of things I want to do before I die and one of those things is learn to surf. I haven’t done that yet, mostly because I live in a land-locked state and the ability to take lessons and get out on the waves regularly is very limited. That will change hopefully in 2017 if not sooner.

Child riding a wave on a surfboard

Child surfing – If they can do it, then I can too!

I had another thing on my bucket list and that was to take out a stand up paddle board (SUP). That has become very popular lately and I thought, “This could be a baby step in learning how to surf down the road.”

Yesterday, I got my chance. We were on a lake and at first, my husband and I started out on kayaks while the kids took out the stand up paddle boards to have some fun. As I traveled around the, I looked at how much fun they were having and after about 30 minutes, I turned my kayak back to shore and asked the many in charge if I could try a stand up paddle board.

The first thing he asked me was, “How’s your balance?” I told him I had good balance, and he responded, “Then you should be fine.” He told me to start on my knees as he pushed the board out into the water. Once I was adrift on the water, I laid my paddle across the front of the board, got on my feet and stood up. Surprisingly, it was much sturdier than I thought it would be.

I told him I would probably just paddle around close to the shore since this was my first time, but I ended up paddling out to where my kids were.

This was just another instance of how, if I listened to my inner fear, I would have missed out on a fun experience, one I intend to do a lot more of!

This is why we should remind ourselves constantly to try new things, even when they seem a little scary. You may find you don’t like or enjoy it. And that’s fine! However, you owe it to yourself to find out.

Whether it’s trying a new food, a new sport or something new for your business, let yourself experience all that you can.

Learn, grow and have a blessed life!

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How to Live Your Dream

10 Quick Tips for Living Your Dream

Do you have a dream?  I mean really.  Do you have a passionate life goal that you constantly think about, dream about, work for?

You would be surprised by the number of people who have stopped dreaming, stopped believing in their dreams or the life they want to be living. Life has either beaten them down until they gave up, or they never really allowed themselves to dream.

Sometimes the only time people dream about a great and fabulous life is when they buy a lottery ticket and start fantasizing about what they’re going to do with all of that money.

Why is that? Why is it that so many people don’t dream anymore? When you’re young, you believe you can do and be anything you want and you know what? You were right. But sometime, somewhere, someone, maybe even your own mind, convinced you that it was impossible to be or do what you wanted and so you gave up.

If you are like me and have not given up on living the life of your dreams, here are 10 quick tips:

1. Don’t give into the fear – I believe this is possibly the number one thing that keeps people from living the life they want. Fear. It’s probably the dirtiest four letter word in existence. It holds people back. It convinces them not to try new things or attempt the seemingly impossible. Don’t give into it. The dirty secret fear holds is that when it’s confronted, it tends to diminish. One of my favorite quotes from Jon Acuff is, “When I become brave, I’ll let you know. Until then, I’m just going to do a lot of awesome things scared out of my mind.”

2. Make the right choices – We make hundreds of choices every day. Choose to make decisions that will inch you closer to your dreams, whether that is weight loss, fitness, health, finances, living somewhere new, etc. Every choice has a consequence. Choose wisely.

3. Talk positively to yourself – Every time a negative thought pops into your head, immediately stop it. I have heard some success coaches actually say out loud, “Delete that!” and then verbally replace that negative thought with a positive one. It may make you feel silly at first, but the mind is powerful. Make sure you are using it to your advantage.

4. Live a life of no regrets – My husband and I were listening to a Brian Tracy CD once and one question he said to ask yourself every day has stuck with us ever since. That question was this, “What one thing, if you did it today, would help you reach your goals?” Do that.

5. Don’t shy away from hard work – Many people use the excuse that they are too tired to work on their dreams. That’s baloney. Your dreams should be so big that they scare you and excite you all at the same time. Jim Rohn said to tell yourself, “I’m working full-time on my job and part-time on my fortune because profits lead to fortune.” Can you spare 10 to 15 hours a week to work on your fortune?

6. Live like you are already successful – In other words, ask yourself what does success feel like? What does success smell like? Wear the perfume. What does success look like? Dress the part. Go where successful people go and do what successful people do. I once worked for a man who was a multi-millionaire entrepreneur. He was working as a CPA for someone else and decided he was going to open his own CPA firm. He bought an expensive suit, leased an expensive car and went knocking on doors asking companies for their business. Within 5 years, he not only had a very successful CPA business, but he owned 10 other businesses as well and lived in the mansion of his dreams on a beautiful estate. He told me, “You have to act, look and believe you are a success and success will come to you.”

7. Kick down doors – If a door is closed, kick it down (figuratively, not literally). In other words, if there’s a roadblock in your way, figure out a way under, over, around or through it. Don’t give up. Water can wear a hole in a rock over time, not because of it’s power, but because of it’s persistence. Keep going.

8. Make yourself stand out from the crowd – Don’t strive to be like everyone else. Strive to be yourself. Nothing is as powerful as being you. If you do what everyone else is doing, you’ll get the same results as everyone else. If you strive to do what the successful people are doing, guess what? You’ll get those same results. Strive to be exceptional.

9. Share your gifts with others – Spread the wealth. Teach others what you know. Serve them. You will be surprised to find that the more you give, the more you get.

10. Allow yourself to dream big – Don’t talk yourself out of the future you want for yourself. Allow yourself to not only dream, but dream big, amazing things for yourself. Then set goals and get to work on achieving them.

You can live the life you’ve always dreamed of, you just have to believe you can and get to work on making it happen.

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Daily Vitamin for the Soul

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Are You Ready For Change?

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.

Are you ready for a change?

I am!

I have felt overwhelmed trying to do a million different things and not really accomplishing anything. The problem is, there are so many things I’m interested in, I’m finding it hard to focus on what I really want. Writing, blogging, entrepreneurship, health, longevity, celebrity gossip, politics, etc. all are a part of me.

Priorities come into consideration of course. God first, then family, but after that, I had to ask myself, “What do you want? If you could do or be anything, what would your life look like?”

My answer was as crystal clear as a bottle of purified water.

I am a writer. I’ve always been a writer. My life has just taken numerous detours along the way to get me to this “AHA!” moment.

So, I’m changing things up on the blog. I’ve started a new blog for Health and Wellness and Essential Oils. It’s called Positively Oily and you can find that website HERE.

If you’d like to follow my Facebook feed for Positively Oily, you can like my page HERE.

This blog will be about me, my life and my pursuit of being the next Jackie Collins/James Patterson. I love writing. I love writing about people who live extraordinary lives in beautiful places encountering impossible situations. I also love suspense. My goal is to write write one women’s fiction romance and one romantic suspense novel a year (and maybe even squeeze in a screenplay and a middle grade fiction book now and then!).

So, while I will continue to put out my Daily Vitamin for the Soul every Monday through Friday, most of my blogging will center around my life and journey toward becoming a published author.

As of now, I have a middle grade fiction book out to an agent for consideration and I am currently working on a women’s fiction romance trilogy. I recently found an old romantic suspense manuscript I’m going to polish up and start submitting as well.

I guess by telling you all of this, I want to impart the words of C. S. Lewis …

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream”

In my case, I’m going back to an old dream. The dream I had before getting married and having children. I’m going to pursue my dream and I hope that you will do the same. Whatever your dream may be, it’s never too late!

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Get Outside

Walking in nature can improve your spirit and your health.

I LOVE being outside. It feeds my soul. I’m a barefoot person too, so there’s few things I like better than going barefoot on spring grass.

It’s delightful and refreshing and liberating all at the same time.

Kids and Dogs playing in the river

Playing with my kids and dogs in a shallow bend of a river.

This past weekend spring was in full force (though I understand that wasn’t the case in a lot of the country … sorry!). Yesterday, we took the kids and our dogs out to a local park to have some outside fun. This included playing in a trickling river and skipping rocks. Yes, I still do that!

Yes, it’s fun. Life should be fun. Everyone should be out and enjoying the great outdoors. Including you! Want proof? Here are 10 reasons why you need to get outside:

1. It’s free! That’s right, getting outside and enjoying nature will cost you absolutely ZERO dollars. Nada. Nothing. It’s FREE!

2. It boosts your immunity! Nature walks can have a profound and positive effect on your immune system.

3. It will help you get fit – If you’re going to be out in nature, that will entail a walk and walking is great exercise for your body and your mind!

4. Boost your creative muse – Studies have shown that when you get out in nature, your creative juices will naturally start to flow. Kids who spend more time outdoors have longer attention spans than their indoor-dwelling counterparts. So make sure your kids put down the electronics and get outside for some playtime in nature.

5. Gain perspective – There is something about being out in nature that grounds you and helps you to realize what is really important in life.

6. Feel happier – Being in nature will bring out a sense of peace and well-being that you can never get from sitting in front of a computer or television screen.

7. Increase your Vitamin D levels – Vitamin D is known to fight infections, including colds and the flu, as it regulates the expression of genes that influence your immune system to attack and destroy bacteria and viruses.

8. Heal your body – There is something inherently healing about being outside. Maybe it’s the natural light, or just the calming reality of being in a natural environment. Regardless, being outside can only benefit your health.

9. Heal your brain – Walking in nature will give your brain a boost. It will relieve stress and calm your mind.

10. Sleep better – I’m not sure why, but getting out in nature always helps me sleep better. Maybe it’s the additional exercise or the release of stress that helps. Regardless, I always sleep better after a nice walk outside.

I hope you will start getting outside more. Look around you and appreciate what a wonderful planet we live on.