Sherry A. Phillips

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When Should You Give Up?


If I had a dime for every time I said to myself, “I quit!” or “I give up!”, I’d be a millionaire right now. No, scratch that, I’d probably be a gazillionaire right now.

However, whenever that thought crosses my mind (or if I actually say it out loud), I almost immediately say, “No! Cancel that! I don’t quit! I’m not a quitter! I will not give up!”

There is power in your words and thoughts. It is important to send yourself and the universe a cancellation notice when your defeating thoughts express themselves.

I bought a 3 day seminar and was participating in it over the weekend. The first day they talked about canceling out your negative order. They actual say, “Cancel that!” out loud and then say what it is they want to happen or redirect that message into something positive and powerful.

So, when is the time to give up? Only when you know that whatever you were pursuing is no longer what you truly want.

I bet you thought I’d say “Never!”

I’m not that impractical. The goals I set for myself when I was in my 20’s no longer suit me today at 52. I’ve grown and my goals and desires have grown with me. Therefore the things I desired at 25, are just not important to me anymore.

When you want to give up, examine WHY you want to quit. Is it because you’re tired, frustrated and exhausted? Or, is it because that goal or dream no longer serves you?

There is a difference!

If you have set a goal for yourself and you seem to be spinning your wheels and not getting any traction, then maybe it’s time to figure out a new way to get to your goal. I’ve stated this before and I’ll say it again. You don’t change the destination, you just need to change the route you’re taking to get you there.

If you’ve set a goal and you’ve been trying and nothing is happening. If you are tired and just want to quit, perhaps you need to reexamine your why.

What is a “why?”

Your why is one of the biggest things that will propel you through obstacles, frustrations and long hours. It is what will take you to the finish line. If your why is strong, it will see you through.

It is not enough to say, “I want more money” or “I want to lose weight.” WHY do you want more more? WHY do you want to lose weight?

How powerful is your WHY? It has to be something so powerful you would walk through pretty much anything to get it. Is your WHY that big?

However, it is possible that your goal just no longer serves you. What once was very important to you, is no longer who you are. I used to want to live in a mansion when I was in my 20’s and 30’s. However, I read a book called the “Not So Big House” by architect Sarah Susanka and my entire vision of what I wanted for my home shifted. You can find that book HERE.

Before you give up on a goal or a dream, ask yourself if you want to give up because it’s just gotten too hard, or if where you want to go in life has fundamentally changed.

If it’s the former, then you should look for guidance and help in finding a path to get you where you want to be. If it’s the latter, then it’s time to sit down and make yourself a new set of goals.

But always, ALWAYS, know your WHY!

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