Sherry A. Phillips

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Ten Steps to Positive Thinking


I feel fortunate in that I was raised by a mother who kept a positive attitude her entire life. No matter what misfortunes came her way, she always saw the good. Wither by genetics or by observation, I feel blessed to also be able to find the good in life, even when things may not be going as well as they could.

Some strategies you can try to improve your outlook on life and change that negative attitude to one of positivity:

1. Meditation and Prayer

One of the first things I do each morning is pray and thank God for the many blessings in my life. By starting my day with gratitude, I immediately take my focus away from negativity and direct them towards a feeling and focus of gratefulness.

2. Smile.

Even when you don’t feel like smiling, still do it. The very act of putting a smile on your face will help change your mood and relieve stress. You will feel much more positive about your circumstances if you strive to keep a smile on your face.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

My mother used to tell me, “You will be judged by the company you keep. Choose wisely.” If you are constantly surrounded by Debbie Downers and other naysayers, it is hard not join into their negative conversations. In contrast, if you are surrounded by positive, uplifting people, you will tend to look for the better side of circumstances. Stay around people who can keep things in perspective and won’t feed your negative thinking.

4. Change the tone of your thought

When faced with a tough situation, instead of thinking (and saying), “We’re really going to have some tough times ahead, I hope we can make it through,” try saying, “We may have some tough times, but we will get through it and we will be better than before.”

5. Don’t play the victim.

Take responsibility for your life and for the decisions you made that got you to where you are. Do not blame others for your circumstances. Own your life and make a decision to make it better. Then act on it!

6. Help someone.

Stop focusing on yourself and think of someone else. Try helping them to get better in their life. You will find it helps you at the same time.

7. Forgive yourself

Don’t dwell on your mistakes. Everyone makes them. Learn from them, grow from them and use them to make better decisions in the future.

8. Sing.

It’s hard to stay negative with you’re singing. Put on a happy, positive and uplifting song and sing your heart out! I’ll let you in on a secret —> I dance too!

9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.

Just as I start each day with a prayer of gratitude, I try and end each day on the same note. Write down 5 things you are grateful for each evening before you got to sleep.

10. Read positive quotes and books.

I have bookmarked several sites that have positive quotes on my computer so that I can read them throughout the day. I keep positive books such as “The Power of Positive Thinking” and “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude” on my Nook to read. I also have the Bible on my Nook. I like to set up positive messages and photos to send out during each day to inspire and motivate others to stay positive.

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2 Replies

  1. The forgiving myself is the hardest one for me. But these are all great! Thank you!

  2. Thanks for this post!!

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