Sherry A. Phillips

Suspense Author

Take Out Your Garbage!


One of my favorite quotes is, “When your past calls, let it go to voicemail. Believe me, it has nothing new to say!”

So many of us carry around our past in our daily lives that it’s a wonder anything new can introduce itself. A bad past is like old garbage. Think for a minute how garbage smells. It’s old, decaying and rotten. Pretty much how a painful past or childhood can be for a lot of people.

Do you really want to drag that nasty smelling trash around with you for the rest of your life?

Most of the time we hear about people carrying around “baggage” with them from relationship to relationship or job to job. But I’m telling you, it’s not “baggage,” it’s trash and if you don’t want it stinking up your present and your future, you need to leave it where it belongs, in the past.

Are you holding a grudge? Are you harboring unforgiveness in your heart for something someone has done to you in your past? Let it go! Don’t let it or them stay in your brain, taking up productive space, draining your energy and your future.

You need to tie it up, throw it out, walk away and forget about it.

By holding onto past mistakes, past relationships and past hurts, you are creating a world for yourself that inhibits blessings to your present and future. Living in your past is obstructing your success. You need to let it go and focus on your bright and promising future.

Your past garbage literally gives off an offensive stench others can smell. When you carry around bitterness and anger, you will let it creep in your daily life. You will think about it, talk about and complain about it to others. Do you really think that’s the kind of person someone else wants to be around?

Would you want to be around that kind of person?

As hard as it is, you must learn to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. I’m not saying you have to stay in an unhealthy situation. Far from it. What I am saying is that you should forgive them and move past it. Take your power back from them.

When you concentrate on them and the hurt they’ve caused you, you are giving them and your past power over your present and future. Stop! Take your power back by forgiving them and not giving them another moment of your life.

Hanging onto that kind of trash will only harm you, not them, so get rid of it.

Don’t get stuck in a victim mentality. It is you who has control over your future, not them. Not your past. Not what you used to be. You.

Always remember that you control how you react to situations and people. You may not be able to control others. You may not be able to control situations. But the one thing you can control is yourself and how you react to those people and situations.

It’s not always easy to forgive and move on. Sometimes it can be the most difficult thing you have ever done. But for you to move past your emotional role as a victim and gain the strength and power you need for your future, you must forgive.

The choice is your’s to make. Are you going to continue to be a victim of your past? Are you going to hold onto anger, bitterness and resentment?

Or are you finally going to send it packing to the dump where it belongs?

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