Sherry A. Phillips

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Are You Letting Your Dream Life Get Away?


Are you letting your dream life get away?

If you’re waiting for someone else to get it for you, then the answer is yes!

Think the days of the “Cinderella Complex” are over? They’re not! The other day I was scanning photos on Pinterest and came across a Pin of a gorgeous estate where the pinner had written, “Why don’t I have a successful doctor husband who will buy this for me?”

At first, I continued to scroll down, but the comment really bothered me. So I scrolled back up and commented on the comment, “Maybe it’s because you’re supposed to set some goals and buy it for yourself?”

I never heard back from that pinner and I honestly hope I didn’t offend her in any way. However, having been a self-inflicted victim of Cinderella-itis, I am very passionate about people taking responsibility for their own life circumstances.

If you want a certain house, then you should figure out what it will take to get it, make a plan and get to work on making it a reality.

I may have told this story before, but I will tell it again: My husband is a pen enthusiast and it just happened that one Saturday we were visiting his favorite pen store in Nashville and as a special promotion, they had a handwriting expert as entertainment for the customers. I figured, “Why not?” and gave her a sample.

You know what she said? “You want the finer things in life, the house, the car, the clothes, the jewelry, but you want someone else to get them for you. You need to think about what that kind of attitude is telling your daughter.”

I was shocked. Not just because what she said was so accurate, but because I had not realized until that point that I was waiting for my husband to provide all of the things I wanted for me. It should have been a wake-up call for me to start doing something then and there.

It wasn’t.

I was a stay-at-home mom. I liked being a stay-at-home mom. I had zero desire to leave my child and go out into the wilds of corporate America.

So what did I do? Absolutely nothing!

Because I did nothing about pursuing an avenue of financial support for myself and our family, years later we found ourselves in an economic downturn with the rest of the country. At this point, I had three children, no job, no income and my husband’s income was dropping every month. In his words, “It’s like someone shut the faucet off.”

Finally, that was a wake-up call for me to get off the Cinderella bandwagon. There would be no wealthy Prince Charming with millions of dollars to rescue me and give me the life I wanted. My Prince Charming was suffering right along with the rest of America.

I decided to make a life for myself. One that I can run from home so I can still be there for my family when they need me. One that I can grow and help other people in the process.

One that will not only get my family the things they need, but the lifestyle I want.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re a man or a woman. No one is immune to the “Cinderella Complex.” It’s what makes people buy lottery tickets and visit gaming cities like Las Vegas.

Our economic future is in our hands. If you want something, don’t wait around for someone else to grab it for you. Make it happen for yourself.

Have you had your wake-up call yet?

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