Sherry A. Phillips

Suspense Author

How to Control Any Situation


I got you, didn’t I?

Seriously, though, the main thought I had today is that we cannot control every situation. However, we CAN control our reaction to it.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned as I grow older is you simply cannot control others’ actions. You can control your reaction to their actions, and that is what counts most to you.

I was reading the Napoleon Hill Foundations Facebook page the other day and they posted this:

No one can make you feel any negative emotion — fear, anger, or inferiority — without your express permission. There will always be people who find perverse enjoyment in upsetting others, or who simply play upon your emotions so that they can use you for their own selfish purposes. Whether or not they are successful depends entirely upon you and how you react to their negative behaviors. When you are forced to deal with such people, recognize from the outset that they are trying to upset you, not because of something you may have done to them, but because of some problem they have with themselves. Tell yourself, “This isn’t about me. I will not allow this person to upset me. I am in control of my emotions and my life.”

One tool I use when someone seems as though they are in a bad mood and wants to take it out on me: I tell myself they are probably going through something I have no idea about. They have problems I know nothing of and they deserve my prayers and my smile.

I was reading a column by Michael Hyatt this morning and he related a story from when he was at Thomas Nelson publishing. There was an executive who always kept his door closed and if anyone looked at him, he would turn away. Michael thought he was basically a self-involved jerk who thought himself better than anyone else. The reality, however, was that he was a self-conscious nice soul who was plagued with anxiety.

Don’t put your insecurities on other people. Don’t let their actions influence your reaction to them.

You are in control. Even if you cannot control every situation, you can always control how you react to it.

Have a blessed day!

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