Sherry A. Phillips

Suspense Author

Stop Trying!

Stop Trying!

Stop Trying! You either are committed or you are not.

But let your “yes” be “yes” and your “no,” “no.” For whatever is more than these is from the evil one. – Matthew 5:37

Over the weekend I received a great message. Stop trying!!!

While that may seem counter-intuitive when you are dreaming big and setting goals, think about it. How many times do you say, “I’m going to TRY to get this done today,” or “I’m going to TRY to lose weight.”

That’s a losing proposition my friends.

It almost reminds me of my high school English teacher when I’d get up to give an oral book report and kept using the word “like.” She would say, “It either is, or it isn’t. It isn’t like anything.”

Lesson learned.

Now I need to learn something new. I need to learn to stop TRYING to reach my goals and just do them.

Think about it. Are you going to lose weight, or are you hiding an excuse by saying, “I’m going to TRY to lose weight?” Are you going to eat healthy, or are you going to “TRY” to eat healthy? Are you going to make those calls for your business this week or are you going to “TRY” to make those calls?

It’s all a matter of choice and when you choose to say you’ll “try,” you are building in an excuse to NOT do the very thing you say you’re going to do. I will wager that the more people say they’ll try to do something as opposed to saying they will do it, the less they succeed.

Which is stronger? “I’m going to host 4 classes this month” or “I’m going to try and host 4 classes this month.”

You know which one is stronger. You can hear it. You can see it. One has set a goal they intend to reach and the other has said they’ll “try.”

Stop trying!

I admit, I am so guilty of this little maneuver I am no where near where I want to be physically, emotionally, financially or business-wise. When I heard about this “try” concept it was like someone hit me in the head with a 2 x 4.


My husband wanted something sweet for dessert the other day and asked if I wanted to go out with him to get ice cream. Do you know what my response was? “No thank you. I’m TRYING to lose weight.”

Because I had just finished reading the Facebook group post on trying, I felt like I’d just slapped myself. I immediately corrected myself and said, “No. I am losing weight and I don’t want to sabotage that by eating ice cream. Thank you.”

Can you see how much stronger that response is? Can you see the difference in the message you are sending to yourself, your brain and the universe when you say something with a definitive purpose as opposed to just trying?

Even Yoda told Luke Skywalker, “Do or do not, there is no try!”

Go out there and grab your goals and make them real. Don’t try, just do it.

Have a blessed day.

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