Sherry A. Phillips

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Mommy Wars: Family vs. Career

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In the ongoing mommy wars saga, today’s question is, “Does having a family mean you cannot be super successful at your career?” Can you do both?

The reason I am asking is that I heard an excerpt from Barbara Walters’ interview with Oprah Winfrey this morning. It was part of her, “10 Most Fascinating People” show that aired last night. I didn’t watch it, I was listening to the recap this morning as I was taking my kids to school.

The question posed was, “Do you have any regrets?” Oprah said, “No.” She then brought up something Barbara Walters told her years ago. Barbara told Oprah that she would “regret not having children.”

Oprah then stated that she never regretted the decision not to have children, because she did not think she would have enjoyed the success she has if she were a mother. In her mind, motherhood meant sacrifice and she was not willing to sacrifice herself or her success for children.

I applaud Oprah’s honesty. While we have women like Sheryl Sandberg telling us that we can have it all, we just need to “lean in,” leaning in often times means missing out. It means not being there for our children when they need us. It means sacrifice, but what are we sacrificing?

I have always felt that after God, my family should come first. I want to be successful and have a huge career, but not if that means my family will suffer due to my absence. As they grow older, I find I have a bit more freedom, but they still need their mother.

Perhaps that is why it is easier for men to be super successful. No one asks them if they can be a great dad and still be super successful at work. They just do it. The mom is oftentimes the parent who keeps the home fires warm and welcoming, even if they have their own job outside the home.

I know there are exceptions. I know there are dads who are doing wonderful jobs with their families. However, most of the time, it’s the mother who is making sure the homework gets done, the dinner is on the table, the sick children taken care of and the paperwork for school filled out.

Jennifer Garner when asked if Ben Affleck was a hands-on father quipped, “I don’t think he even knows there is paperwork to be filled out for school.” That seems to be the norm for most families.

The only place I have seen women be able to come close to “having it all” is with network marketing. With network marketing, you are able to make your own hours and make them work around your family. You are able to grow your business and help others grow their business without encroaching on your precious time as a mother.

If you are interested in living a healthy, more abundant life while growing a business you love, I would love to help you. You can visit my website here to get more information.

It is the closest thing to “having it all” that I have seen any woman obtain and you can have it too. Because living an abundant life should mean we are satisfied in all the areas of our lives, including career and family.

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