Sherry A. Phillips

Suspense Author

7 Steps to Change Your Attitude


Many people walk around with a permanent negative mental attitude and don’t even realize it. They tell themselves they are being “realistic” when in actuality, they are harboring negativity.

If you are one of those people, or are battling negative thoughts, here are 7 steps you can take to change your attitude from negative to positive.

1. For 24 hours, deliberately say and think positive things about everything and everybody. Think positively about your job, your health, your family and your future. Go out of your way to be optimistic. This may be hard for you, especially if you have been walking around nursing a negative mental attitude, but you must make a conscious effort to be positive.

2. After the first 24 hours, make a decision that you will continue doing this for the next 6 days. That’s right, I want you to continue this conscious and deliberate practice of thinking positive, optimistic thoughts for a week. About EVERYTHING! You will discover after a week of doing this that your “realistic” thinking was in fact, negative thinking.

3. Just as we must feed our bodies with nourishing food for it to be healthy, we must feed our minds with healthy thoughts. We do this by reading positive things, thinking positive things and being around positive people. For one week, stay away from news sites (really, there’s rarely anything positive on the news and if there is some major event, someone will tell you about it.) Instead, I want you to read positive books like “The Power of Positive Thinking” or “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude” or “Think and Grow Rich.”

4. Grab your Bible and search Matthew, Mark, Luke and John for passages about Faith. Mark 11: Verses 22, 23, 24 are particularly noteworthy. Once you find them, highlight them, read and reread them. Commit them to memory and repeat them to yourself several times a day. They have miraculous healing abilities on a negative mind.

5. Make a list of your friends and decide who among them are the most positive thinkers. Deliberately cultivate relationships with positive people. This does not mean you have to get rid of those who are negative, but you must surround yourself with those who are optimistic about life. As the quote says, “You are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Choose those people wisely.

6. Avoid arguments. If someone expresses a negative comment or attitude, counter it with a positive one. Keep an optimistic attitude and a smile on your face.

7. Pray. A Lot. Start your day with it. End your day with it. Express your gratitude for the many blessings in your life. Express that gratitude often. God is a good, loving and generous God. He loves you and wants wonderful things for you. Spend time with Him and have faith that He can conquer your problems. Matthew 9:29 says, “According to your faith, be it unto you.” Have faith.

I pray you all have a positive, optimistic and blessed life.

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4 Replies

  1. Deanna Michaels

    Great tips! Focusing on the positive really makes a big difference. Love how you suggest doing it for a week to really make a change.

    1. Sherry Phillips

      I think it takes at least a week and probably longer to start making real changes in how you think. Most of us have years of negativity pre-programmed in our minds.

  2. Great post! God has been dealing with me a LOT about #5. Not an easy lesson to learn, that’s for sure!

    1. Sherry Phillips

      God’s been dealing with me a lot too! I’m just keeping the faith and putting one foot in front of the other!

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