Sherry A. Phillips

Suspense Author

10 Rules to Boost Your Self-Confidence


All of us have experienced self-doubt at one time or another. Some people experience crippling self-defeating thoughts that keep them from going out into the world and living their lives to the fullest.

How can you defeat these negative feelings?

Here are 10 rules I try and live by. They can help you boost your self-esteem and confidence too.

10 Rules to Boost Your Self-Confidence

1. Formulate a mental picture of yourself succeeding. Imprint that image on your mind and hold onto you with everything you’ve got. Never permit it to fade. Eventually, your mind will seek to develop this picture. NEVER think of failing. Don’t even let that seed of doubt take root in your mind. The mind always tries to complete what it pictures, so ALWAYS picture success.

2. Whenever a negative thought enters your mind, immediately replace it with a positive thought. Say it out loud to yourself to cancel out any negative voice.

3. Do not build up obstacles in your imagination. If one pops up in your mind, minimize it. Everyone faces obstacles and difficulties, you must learn how to deal with them in a proactive and positive manner. Do not inflate them and give them more power than they have.

4. Be YOU — Do not be awestruck by other people and try to copy them. No one can be you as effectively as you can. Also remind yourself that pretty much everyone you meet, even those with a confident demeanor, are often as scared and doubtful as you are.

5. Ten times a day (and whenever self doubt starts to creep in), say these words, “If God be for us, who can be against us?”

6. If needed, find a counselor in your area who can help you get over any childhood problems or things in your past that may make you have these self-defeating thoughts. Find their origin and learn how to deal with them in a positive and proactive manner. Self-knowledge leads to cures when it comes to these types of problems.

7. Along with Number 5, tell yourself ten times each day, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” There is power in these phrases and they will help you.

8. Make a true estimate of yourself and your abilities, then raise it by 10%. I’m not talking about being egotistical and narcissistic, I’m talking about developing a healthy self-respect for yourself.

9. Put yourself and your problems in God’s hands. Say it to yourself when you feel down or in difficult situations. “I am in God’s hands.” Not only say it, but BELIEVE it. He is with you, supporting you and guiding you every day. Feel it. Remember, “the kingdom of God is within you.”

10. Remind yourself constantly that God is with you and NOTHING can defeat you. Believe it and receive that power from Him.

There is no reason to go through life with a self-defeating attitude. I have used these rules to keep me going and change my self doubt to self-confidence.

You can too!

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